I Need a Babysitter!

I wasn’t quite sure how to tackle this one, so why not come straight to the point?! And before you start wondering, I’m not putting out an open request here for someone, anyone to come and look after my children!

I was watching Eastenders the other night, and saw a toddler nearly drown when her mother decided to let her teenage cousin look after her, just so she could go out a bit earlier, and I had full on shivers that in less than five minutes she nearly drowned, because the babysitter wasn’t doing their job properly.

Until a couple of months ago, if we were invited out for the evening, (and this didn’t happen very often!) it was simple. My husband would get on the phone to his Mum, she’d pop round and hey presto, sorted! If she couldn’t help us out, I’d phone my Mum, or sister in law, or best friend. We just knew that we’d be able to go out, and that someone we trusted implicitly would be able to babysit.

A lot of people will know that in September, we moved to Wiltshire, about an hour and a half away from our friends and family. If anything, in this time our social lives have got more active, we’ve going out a lot more separately. I’ve made some lovely friends through the children’s incredibly busy social lives, and my husband has met a lot of people through his new job, who he has also socialised with. I’ve asked the Mums I regularly talk to already, and I think it might be a bit rude to just go up to any of the other Mums, and suddenly ask them to do me a huge favour when I’ve never even had them round for a cuppa! However, in a few weeks, we have both been invited to my husband’s Christmas social, and the mother in law is away for the weekend, so who could babysit?!

I’d really like to meet the people my husband works with, and I think he’d actually quite like me to be there too! I’m sure I could get someone, but if, for example, one of the mums at the school gates who I trust recommends someone, does that mean I can trust them? Can I just go out, leaving my home and my children in their care when I’ve only met them a couple of times? For some reason, the answer in my heart is no, but if this person is a babysitter, qualified and CRB checked, shouldn’t it be yes? After all, I dropped my daughter off at school for her first induction, having only spoken to her teacher for less than five minutes, and I didn’t have the doubts then? And only a couple of weeks ago, one of the Mums let her daughter come to my house in my care, and she didn’t really know me.

So do I need to lighten up or am I right to feel like this? Have I just been spoilt until now, having the luxury of family just around the corner? What do you do when they’re not there? I think I might just hope for my Fairy Godmother to appear and tell me that I shall go to the Ball. After all, it is nearly Panto season!

6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Anita (@ExMiss)
    Nov 07, 2011 @ 11:53:39

    I know what you mean! Unfortunately I’ve never had family close by, so the baby’s 5 months old and has never been left with anyone except mum or dad!

    When I need to go out, I think I’ll get a babysitter round a few days in advance so that little one can get used to them. I’d pay them of course.

    Hope you find someone!


  2. Helen
    Nov 07, 2011 @ 11:59:01

    We live a similar distance away from our family as you do by the sounds of it, whenever we go out together, which isn’t very often, my parents usually come & stay – so our social life usually has to fit in with their numerous holidays around the globe! We have had a babysitter once since my youngest was born & that was a whole ago – when I could guarantee that he would go to bed at 6.30 and not wake until morning, now he’s a toddler that can’t always be guaranteed so I’m reluctant to leave a stranger in charge and I don’t feel as though I could ask friends as they have kids too & although I’m happy to help them out if needed I really don’t want to repay the favour by babysitting as I usually do my work in the evenings.
    oh sorry for the waffle! I wasn’t much help either!


  3. The Boy and Me (@TheBoyandMe)
    Nov 07, 2011 @ 20:36:45

    I used to be a babysitter for the people across the road and hand on heart, I was ill-equipped at the age of 15 to deal with a newly adopted six month old baby who didn’t know me from Larry. It was bleeding hard work. Is there a nanny or baby-sitting agency or something? (Sorry, my mum just babysits for us!)


  4. Jennypaulin @ mummy mishaps
    Nov 09, 2011 @ 20:03:34

    The problem is that nowadays more so then ever you have to be so careful don’t you? I used to babysit when I was 17 – for a drunkard woman which was awful but that’s another story- for a small toddler and I had no experience!! But got taken on! I think that if a mum you know reccommend someone she has used or maybe has a daughter who is sense and trustworthy (and not likely to throw a party in yor house!) then you could give it a go – maybe don’t go out for as long as you say so you come back early to check the babysitter is behaving themselves? Get them to meet the kids before though so they know who the sitter is.
    It’s a difficult one but I think you have to trust people and go with your instincts? I haven’t come across this yet and have my OH’s mum living 10 mins away so I guess she is always willing to help whenever she is able.
    Good luck lovely xx


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